For many women, one of the hardest things in life is to feel confident and accepted. Usually, we come from a place where other people made us believe that we are not smart, beautiful, or good enough.
However, we all know a confident woman that is not necessarily the most attractive or popular. These women are graceful and free, they bring the positive energy that everybody wants to be around.
In this article, we will cover 11 mistakes every confident woman should avoid at all costs. Write them down and try to fix one mistake at a time.
Let’s jump right into them!
#1 Mistake – Bad Gossiping
We all know that gossiping is an easy way to bond with other people, and we often do it unconsciously. However, there is nothing positive about harmful speech.
You will never find a confident woman who likes to spend time spreading negative words. Confident people know that their success has nothing to do with other people’s downfalls. Instead of gossiping, they are talking about new ideas and plans for the future.
It’s not easy to break this habit. Take time to learn how to stop minding other people’s lives, and you will be one step ahead.
Be less curious about people and more curious about ideas. —Marie Curie
#2 Mistake – Following the Trends All the Time
Following the trends is okay sometimes, but if you do it all the time – you will definitely blend into the mass.
A confident woman is setting trends, not following them blindly.
Try to develop the style, experiment, and allow yourself to be bold and creative, whatever that means to you.
You can start the change with your clothes, for example. Ask yourself these three simple questions:
- Is this something that looks timeless?
- How will this make me feel in my skin – confident or weird?
- Is this piece comfortable?
Also, think twice before purchasing something new. A confident woman knows that trends are not as important as feeling amazing in your skin and clothes.
#3 Mistake – People-Pleasing
People-pleasing is deeper than just the wish to help others.
This is the issue that many people face, and it comes from the desire to be liked and appreciated.
Here are a few signs that you may be a people-pleaser:
- You feel extremely uncomfortable when someone is angry with you.
- Your mood depends on other people’s behavior.
- You pretend to agree with everything someone says.
- You don’t know how to reject people.
- You feel responsible for other people’s feelings.
We have been there, so we understand that this task is not easy to overcome. Problem-solving starts with noticing that we have a problem in the first place. Be patient with yourself and try to understand that you are as important as everyone else.
Confident women do not seek someone’s validation. They know their worth and understand the fact that not everyone will like them.
When you say YES to others, make sure you are not saying NO to yourself. —Paulo Coelho
#4 Mistake – Not Working Out
Self-care is a top priority of a confident woman, which means that you should care about your health and well-being every single day.
The benefits of working out go beyond the confidence boost. This habit will help you face all the challenges differently. You will realize that you are capable of much more than you think.
You will improve your posture as well, and trust us on this – this task is extremely important!
A confident woman walks with confidence, she is graceful and comfortable in her shoes, and we can all feel the bold energy she is radiating.
If you are still not working out, it’s time to fix this today!
#5 Mistake – Staying In Your Comfort Zone
We are all trying to stay in our comfort zone, mostly unconsciously. The comfort zone is familiar, cozy, and safe but minimizing the risk decreases the chance for big things.
A confident woman knows that stepping outside of her comfort zone leads to expanding it. Try new things, meet new friends, say something in a room full of people.
Is it easy?
Can it become easier?
Oh yes! Practice is everything.
When we face the fear of the unknown, we realize that, usually, nothing bad can happen. It becomes easier every time. Just don’t give up.
#6 Mistake – Trying To Impress Others
Trying too hard to impress others is a major mistake women are making. This is completely natural since it feels good to be liked and appreciated.
However, if you always focus on impressing others, it becomes impossible to live a happy and confident life.
The most profound life lesson I have learned from 15 years of psychic mediumship work, is how quickly and easily people are forgotten once they depart this life. Yet, so many of us live only to please or impress others while we are here.― Anthon St. Maarten
#7 Mistake – Not Working On Communication Skills
If you are not sure how to express yourself, it becomes extremely hard to feel confident in a conversation.
Here are some of our best tips to start working on this issue:
- Read as much as you can. You will expand your vocabulary while learning new things constantly.
- Be present. When it comes to learning, remember that good communication is all about being present and learning from people. Bill Nye said that everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t. We couldn’t agree more.
- Listen carefully and admit if you don’t understand. A confident woman is not afraid to admit that she doesn’t know something. The point is to understand, not give an opinion immediately, or sound smarter than the person next to you.
#8 Mistake – Not Supporting Others
A successful and confident woman understands the importance of supporting people. Remind yourself that encouraging other people’s dreams can help you build genuine relationships too.
If you are making this mistake – you can fix it today!
Try to remember what people around you love, and listen to them carefully. Ask questions and be there. Say something nice about their journey and offer emotional support.
Believing in others will help you believe in yourself and increase confidence. This is the way to grow as a friend, partner, and person.
#9 Mistake – Attention-Seeking
You must know someone that demands attention all the time while exhausting everyone around. They will make drama over something insignificant just to make sure that everything revolves around them.
Most attention seekers are deeply insecure, and if you are one of them, you need to learn how to stop making this mistake.
A confident woman makes other people around her feel energized and appreciated, not exhausted and miserable.
#10 Mistake – Faking Your Life On Social Media
Many women are afraid to show who they really are. They are insecure about their looks, finances, or relationship status. This is completely normal, and we are not here to judge.
But when it comes to confidence, you have to do everything in your power to feel good in your skin. Overediting social media posts and showing only the most beautiful parts will not help you in a journey.
Try to connect with people by sharing your real experiences, real struggles, and thoughts.
#11 Mistake – Self-Doubting
Believing in yourself is the foundation of every successful story.
To become truly confident, you will need to learn how to stop this exhausting habit.
We self-doubt all the time. It can happen before an important meeting or test, speaking in public, etc.
Here are some tips on how to stop it on time:
- Recognize and acknowledge that you are in a self-doubting place
- Try to focus 100% on what you can control – your assignment, speech, or test.
- When your mind gets to self-doubting, try to shift back to your task.
- Practice focus and attention every single day.
When you put in some real work, you will have the time to focus on important things.
Most haters are stuck in a poisonous mental prison of jealousy and self-doubt that blinds them to their own potentiality.― Steve Maraboli
In today’s world, it is becoming more and more challenging to feel relaxed and confident. Hopefully, our list will help you on your journey.
Work every day on fixing mistakes that are stopping you from becoming a truly confident woman.
Which of these 11 mistakes do you make the most often?
Let us know in a comment down below!